Is sycophancy a sign of narcissism
Negative character traits and behavioral defects. What prevents us from living.
How to Eliminate Negativity.
A manual is offered to your attention to help you analyze your behavior, find and overcome character flaws, find the reasons for failure and the development paths.
Mistakes are thoughts, words or actions that harm someone or something. Negative character traits tend to make mistakes.
Changing character often begins precisely with the analysis of negative conditions or consequences, then the reasons are determined - flaws or negative character traits. These reasons are individual for each person. For example, fear, cowardice, disgust (if it is fear of insects, for example) can be the cause of a state of anxiety. After dealing with the cause of a negative condition or consequence, it is much easier to deal with that condition, problem, or difficult situation. It also happens the other way around: it is easier to eliminate a flaw or an inherent trait of character if you look ahead to what conditions or consequences it may lead to.
To correct a mistake, to cope with a habit or deficiency, you need to:
1. Admit this mistake yourself, remembering specific cases, and try to understand the reasons behind the hiring.
2. Recognize the damage caused by wrongdoing, a manifestation of lack for other people, deeds, the world around you and yourself. To see the damage, one cannot just remember the actual consequences of wrongdoing - corrupt relationships, unresolved tasks, illnesses and other problems, but also think about what this disadvantage in its extreme manifestations can lead to. For example, aggression - war, irritability - destruction of a family or a team, loss of friends.
3. To understand how it was necessary to act in the situation under consideration in order not to make this mistake.
4. Asking forgiveness from those who have been hurt, resolve from now on not to repeat the mistake. If the call to forgiveness is inappropriate or there is no person around whom you would like to ask for forgiveness, then you can do so mentally. Asking forgiveness (in any form) reflects a change in opinion about one's behavior and a desire to change one's behavior. It also has to do with the decision to accept help with correction.
5. Monitor the implementation of the decision.
List of behavioral defects and negative character traits
Creating an imaginary ideal, creating values and serving them.
idolatry, fetishism, idolatry, adoration, admiration, deification, fascination
Creating barriers to human action.
Reluctance to make efforts, to act, to work, to think, a tendency to do nothing.
Angry hostile attitude towards someone or something, bad will.
Take someone's life.
Feel superior; the exaltation of one's own or the appropriation of the merits of other people.
Wounded self-esteem, unwillingness to admit their mistakes, unwillingness to ask for or receive help despite the need.
vulnerability, vulnerability, pride
Intimate relationships (or the search for such relationships) between unmarried, unmarried people without consent to have a family.
Inaccurate reflection of reality, incorrect perception or presentation of information.
lies, perversion, exaggeration.
Unwillingness to limit oneself in actions, words, feelings.
breakdown, incontinence, incontinence, failure
Rejection of someone or something, irritable reaction to something or someone.
intransigence, intolerance, irritability
Accept prejudices, give meaning in vain, wrong.
Uncontrolled sex drive.
Failure to meet obligations in a timely manner or properly, unwillingness to foresee the consequences of the election.
non-commitment, false promises, non-fulfillment, negligence, self-elimination, negligence, unreliability
Lack of confidence in the ability to achieve what is desired (necessary, reasonable).
lack of belief, lack of belief
Encouraging someone to have harmful feelings, words, or actions.
temptation, temptation, provocation, incitement, incitement, incitement, incitement, anger, seduction, seduction
Small reproaches that focus on the slightest inconsistency with the norm.
Empty, unfounded interest.
drive, trigger, look, listen
Limitation of what has already been achieved, lack of striving for the best.
To praise something of yourself, your own merits, often imaginary, exaggerated.
praise, boast, boast
Filling time with fun rather than useful activity.
amusement, amusement, fun, fun,
An arrogant attitude towards someone.
arrogance, arrogance, arrogance, superiority
Only carry out your (narrow, limited) experience in decision making and business; Execution of cases without sufficient knowledge and coordination.
arrogance, self-sufficiency, self-confidence
A tendency to react painfully to other people's words or actions.
Hesitation in the moment of choice, inability to make and carry out decisions independently.
weakness, lack of will, weakness, weakness, softness, suppleness,
Defiant behavior, harming someone's interests.
insolence, rudeness, self-indulgence, cockiness, tactlessness, insolence, innocence, inaccuracy, insolence, insolence, assertiveness
Empty futile actions that bear no fruit.
excitement, hustle and bustle, confusion, walking around, disorganization, impulsiveness
Lack of measures to prevent the inspection of the unacceptable, illegal ones.
forbearance, forbearance, forbearance, forbearance
Lack of clear beliefs, goals, inability (unwillingness) to distinguish between good and bad, right and wrong in anything, to make a choice, to explain your actions or opinions.
indistinctness, fog, haze, indistinctness, indistinctness, indistinctness, confusion
Verbal expression of dissatisfaction.
grumble, grumble, murmur, indignation
The desire to defame, to shame, to humiliate, to cloud.
shame, defilement, defamation, defilement, blasphemy, defamation, compromise, indignation, rape
Blame others for your unfulfilled hopes in them.
Speak out, show, reproach
Disgust for everything.
Inalienable honesty, uttering words without purpose or meaning.
gossip, chatter, disclosure, blurting out
Lack of generosity, unwillingness to share, to give.
avarice, avarice, avarice, avarice, gusts
Striving for more than necessary.
greed, gluttony, avarice
Rejection of logical thinking, making connections between facts and events.
frivolity, thoughtlessness, frivolity, frivolity, superficiality
Violation of the established order, excessive decision-making authority.
arbitrariness, indignation, self-will, autocracy, tyranny, anarchy, despotism, lynching, reprisals
Demeanor without due attention and active participation; Lack of grace, care, responsiveness.
unresponsiveness, reluctance, heartlessness, indifference, calluses, dryness
Making fun of someone's behavior in a fake way.
ridiculousness, teasing, buffoons, clowns, jokes, clowns, buffoons, buffoons, pleasure, comic, clowns, comedies, ridicule
Sharp statements in an ironic form.
sting, irony, joke, ridicule, sarcasm, malice, sharpness
Participating in a battle, an argument with the aim of shifting blame or solving problems.
quarrel, quarrel, quarrel, challenge; Debt shift
Enthusiasm for something to the detriment of other matters, an emotional approach to business.
non-stop, unrestrained, uncontrollable, unbridled
Misleading for selfish purposes.
cheat, deceive, deceive, cheat, fictional, deceive, cheat, deceive, deceive, lie
Execution of the case without understanding the essentials.
imitation, ritual, pharisaism
Reluctance to acquire knowledge
lack of education, backwardness, density
The use of intoxicants.
Delay in execution of decisions.
lag, sluggishness, hitch, postponement, delay, tightening
Assuming obligations for the indispensable performance of something.
What they say or don't take seriously, for fun, entertainment, for laughing.
The tendency to make hasty decisions, act quickly, draw hasty conclusions.
hurry, impatience, hurry
A state of fear, fear, fear of something unknown.
cowardice, fear, cowardice, reassurance
Striving for personal gain, profit.
win, selfishness, commerce, negotiation, pragmatism
Willful violation of moral standards for personal gain.
bribery, bribery; Corruption, bribery; prostitution
Adjusting to circumstances or people, changing your point of view to please someone.
compromises, tweaks, tweaks, ruthlessness, illegibility
Attraction to something without purpose or meaning; unjustified rejection of the reasonable.
unpretentiousness, whimsy, whimsy
A strong orientation towards the prevailing opinion about someone or something.
stereotype, tendentious, stereotype, prejudice.
Intentional infliction of mental or physical pain.
torture, sadism, savagery, masochism, torment, scourge
Intentional inhalation of tobacco smoke or other narcotic drugs.
Violation of loyalty or obligation.
betrayal, apostasy, renunciation, betrayal
Verbal expression of accumulated complaints, listing of negative points.
Lack of creativity.
trite, trivial, mediocre
Present information in a light that is convenient for you; Falsification of facts.
shield, evade, get out, excuse me, excuse me
Lack of attention, control over what is happening.
indiscretion, gullibility, insensitivity
Delaying the execution of actions by creating artificial obstacles.
Taking advantage of a person's plight (problem, difficult situation).
Limit your worldview and your activities to your personal use and needs.
egoism, egocentrism, individualism
See danger where there is none.
seem to be
Creating a cult from reception and (or) cooking.
Attraction to something unreasonable.
Immunity to the new, ossification in their views, habits, worldview, stereotypical thinking.
stiffness, stubbornness, toughness, dogmatism, stereotypy, stencil
Militancy, readiness to attack.
attacks, combat readiness
Persistent reluctance to accept a different opinion despite reasonable arguments.
perseverance, intransigence, tenacity
Arrogant resistance to himself (his opinion and actions) against someone.
ambition, ambition, confidence
Perception or transmission of information without understanding its meaning; mystical approach to receiving or sending information.
The joy of satisfying sensory inclinations.
joy, joy, rapture, buzz, anticipation, euphoria
Failure to maintain moral or physical cleanliness.
Deliberately exceeding the cost and importance of goods, services, and relationships to gain benefits.
A senseless desire to acquire, to save, to get rich.
I am unhappy with the lack of what others have.
The advantage of their services, external data, jewelry.
foppishness, vigor, strength, fad, cunning, narcissism, imagination, narcissism, narcissism
Satisfaction with someone else's misfortune, failure, or joy.
Offend someone by word or deed; rough indications of defects.
humiliation, insult, submission, scolding, profanation, reproach, contempt
Lack of mercy, compassion in words and deeds.
ruthlessness, mercilessness, inhumanity, brutality, cruelty, ruthlessness, ferocity
rude, rude, rude
An attempt to assert oneself by fraudulent means.
trick, trick, cheating, deception, cheating, sophistication, cheating, simulation, skill
Striving for fame, recognition of their services by others.
Disseminating information without trusting its accuracy or knowingly incorrect.
defamation, defamation, defamation, defamation, defamation, futility, defamation, innuendo, self-accusation, defamation
Implacability of the damage caused.
An ironic doubt about something for no good reason.
Insincere, submissive praise.
flattering, sycophantic, praise, praise, praise, grovel
Lack of confidence in actions for fear of making a mistake or doing something that is uncomfortable for others.
shyness, shyness, shyness, shyness
Indulge your own or someone else's basic instincts with words or actions.
indecency, profanity, profanity, indecency, fat, vulgarity, profanity
Biased based on personal connections, distribution of goods, positions, locations, etc.
Deliberate appropriation of a stranger in secret from the owner.
theft, kidnapping, embezzlement, theft
The desire to answer bad for bad.
retribution, vengeance, take vengeance, punishment, retribution, punishment, eviction
An excruciating feeling of fear of losing complete control over yourself, a painful suspicion of betrayal.
Make unrealistic plans.
manilovism, illusion, unrealisability, unreality, utopianism
Deception in behavior to attract attention.
Aversion to someone because of their shortcomings that overshadow positive traits.
antipathy, hostility, rudeness
Crude, insulting form of statements; the use of obscene expressions in the language.
cursing, foul language, cursing, profanity, profanity
Acceptance of information without reflection or analysis.
naivety, innocence, suggestibility
Actions aimed at gaining an advantage over other people.
competitiveness, confrontation, competition
An attempt to abuse someone else's property, to dispose of it.
Lust for power
The lust for power, the desire to command, to lead.
Conflict tendency, nagging, quarrel, abuse.
Emotional or physical pressure to submit.
submission, pressure, oppression, pressure, assertiveness, coercion, coercion, nudging, persuading, harassment
Negative feedback about someone or something with the aim of creating awareness; an emotional description of someone's mistakes.
defamation, abuse, defamation, gossip
An attempt to frighten, to catch up with fear.
threat, intimidation, ultimatum
Hide your intentions; Actions contrary to the stated moral principles.
hypocrisy, ambiguity, bigotry, insincerity
Deliberately falsifying facts to prove your point; Use of arguments that do not relate to the merits of the case.
Lack of diligence and diligence in business, joyless, mechanical implementation.
negligence, dishonesty, negligence, hack
Emotional perception of events, exaggerating their negative side.
Try to receive, achieve something from others against their wishes and decisions.
Arduous teaching; impose moral rules without explaining their essence.
preach, moralize, warn, moralize
The attitude towards someone, something that is not worth paying attention to.
Too simplified business approach.
Elaborate type of presentation.
complication, presumption, intricacy, floridity, presumption, extravagance, confusion
Judging someone only about their flaws, shortcomings.
Participation in conversations, affairs of other people without their consent.
penetrate, intercept, entanglement
Lack of hospitality and attention to the guest.
Respect from people
The preference of some people over others.
Deliberately harming someone, something.
atrocities, sabotage, crime, felony, malicious intent
Fainted for something someone else has.
bags, seizure, plagiarism
Participation in negative emotions, experiences of others instead of real help.
Lack of neatness, frugality, accuracy.
indolence, negligence, negligence.
Lack of necessary maintenance for your or trustworthy property.
An unreasonable, unreasonable waste.
extravagance, waste, waste, waste
Purposeless and fruitless conversations that replace communication.
Idle talk, gossip, idle talk
Striving for an advantageous position, neglecting the choice of means.
Passing on information to someone through violent means and emotional exposure.
programming, programming, installing, coding, hypnosis, conspiracy, witchcraft, magic, sorcery, spell
Disregard for other people's values, violation of moral norms.
Secret message of unwanted actions from someone.
hum, sniff, izvet, sniff, slander
Changeability in beliefs, views, plans.
Exaggerated importance, excessive solemnity, pomp.
pomp, eloquence, solemnity, pomp
Selfish, covered with plausible pretexts, acts based on the gullibility of people.
fraud, fraud, fraud, charlatanism, forgery, forgery, forgery, fraud
Making concessions to someone else's opinion for lack of firm convictions.
Assigning responsibilities to yourself or others without considering real opportunities.
An attempt to get something from others that threatens to be exposed.
An attempt to achieve a selfish goal by manipulating interests and relationships between people.
intrigue, intrigue, hooking, dirty trick, conspiracy, manipulation
Giving meaning to something meaningless.
A state of abstraction from what is currently needed.
dispersion, incoherence, dispersion, poor concentration
Hunting, fishing, deforestation in forbidden places, at forbidden times, with forbidden methods, a barbaric attitude towards the flora and fauna.
Pleasing gratification of someone's whims.
forbearance, submissiveness, submissiveness, forbearance, sycophancy
An attempt to gain favor with flattery and submissiveness.
sweet, submissive, creeping, oily
Excessive food intake.
An attempt to learn something mystically; Assumptions, assumptions without justification.
An attempt to reduce the distance when communicating with someone without their consent.
familiarity, boasting, frivolity
Willingness to take risks
Actions for happiness, in the unreasonable expectation of a happy outcome, neglect of danger.
Help in bad, criminal matters.
An attempt to solve questions, problems with only superficial knowledge.
Mediation between a man and a woman to enable an intimate relationship.
Sacrificing some values for others
Strict adherence to principles and conventions down to the smallest detail.
decency, ceremony, stiffness
Extreme views, actions, requirements.
Monotonous, annoying repetition of what has been said that bothers others.
obsession, importance, discomfort, stickiness, boredom, boredom, grumbling
Intentionally hiding information.
Violation of rights, restriction of the freedom of action of others with violence.
burden, enslavement, enslavement, enslavement, oppression, injury, discrimination
Tendency of other people to accept certain ideas, views, and decisions.
Struggle for national superiority.
Indecent behavior that causes harm.
Mischievous tricks for fun, amusement, entertainment.
mischief, prank, leprosy, stupidity, fun
Enter the role, accept an artificial image in life, act in behavior.
Hiking without specific professions.
The desire to enter someone's trust for your own benefit.
Formal judgments separate from life.
scholasticism, abstraction, philosophizing, theorizing, pedagogy
A tendency towards unfounded suspicions.
The tendency to manage things through physical strength.
An attempt to exert a strong emotional influence on others.
Persevering in following someone with bad intentions.
Forced eviction of someone from the group, society, territory.
Actions aimed at collapse, destruction and decay.
Painful emotional state caused by a strong impression of events, actions; Fear of something.
Encouraging people to commit previously untypical mistakes and misdeeds;
low moral behavior, relationships, morals; sexual promiscuity.
seduction, debauchery, debauchery
Memorize without understanding the meaning.
Forcible appropriation of someone else.
Each person's character is a combination of positive and negative traits. Bad personality traits can seriously complicate the life of its owner and those around him. Very often a person cannot even suspect that they have such traits and fail to understand why people around them avoid communicating with him.
These traits are characteristic of people who, in their opinion, feel superior to other people. Excessive ambition and self-confidence lead to such character traits. Ambition can conflict with real opportunities. In this case, a person can humiliate other people and thereby assert himself at their expense.
The desire to control and manage, to subdue other people, there are often elements of cruelty. Typically, these negative character traits stem from childhood, when a person was humiliated and cruelly treated by parents or loved ones. He gets angry at the whole world and transmits cruelty to those around him.
Like all others, these properties have an extremely negative effect on their owner and have a destructive effect on the human psyche. Character imbalances are often the result of neurological and psychological disorders and need to be corrected.
Such character traits are manifested in constant dissatisfaction, the desire to criticize and condemn everything around us: other people, the government, the country, the world around us. People who constantly express condemnation show little tolerance for themselves. The hidden reason for dissatisfaction with the world and with oneself is often the following quality.
The tendency to envy arises in people who want something in their life but are faced with the inability to have it. If you underestimate your own abilities and at the same time observe the success of others, this negative quality can develop.
Pessimism and weakness - negative character traitscause a negative human vision of the surrounding world. People with low self-esteem and self-doubt are prone to this perception. Weakness is the result of excessive love and protection by the parents in childhood, which does not allow the child to be independent.
The cause of greed in people can be family memories of difficult times, material hardships in childhood. In this case, there is an excessive attachment to material and financial values, dependence on them and the desire to accumulate them more and more.
Individuals who over time do not take responsibility for their words, promises, and actions lose people's trust completely. Irresponsibility is often accompanied by lies. These negative character traits are common companions of each other. The reasons for lying are the fear of being judged and punished, the desire to hone their skills.
These are just a few of the bad qualities of a person's character that can overshadow all of his positive qualities. Often such features have roots in childhood: dislike or overprotection, inattention of parents towards children, faults in upbringing can become the basis for the development of such character phenomena. "" Everyone has their own demons ..."- sounds in a modern song. It is very important to identify these" demons ", accept their presence and start neutralizing.
Character is a set of personality traits. In other words, it's a combination of attitudes and habits. The character plays a crucial role in a person's fate. Every action elicits an appropriate response: a person reacts to situations and objects in an individual way, just as reality reacts personally to the reaction. Wisdom, which has absorbed the experience of thousands of generations, claims that when you sow a habit, you reap character. If you have buried a complex of habits in the garden bed, then you can count on a corresponding fate.
Hundreds of character traits (and one characteristic is the response to a certain area of objective reality), each of them, like everything in this life, tends towards one of the poles - positive or negative. But if in many areas the existence of opposites is not only natural, but also good, then the presence of negative sides in character is very bad, although, unfortunately, this is the norm.
If asked to list negative traits, the average person is unlikely to list more than three or four dozen. However, to only mention them in the form of a list, the article would have to be quadrupled. Despite the fact that, without preparation, it is difficult for us to remember a tenth of the negative character traits, we are familiar with most to varying degrees.
Four main groups
Character traits can be divided into four groups that determine a person's attitude:
- to himself;
- to others;
- work, do business;
- especially for the world and material things;
You certainly don't need an explanation of each class, but it won't be superfluous to give examples of each group of negative traits.
Self-holding is vanity
The name is eloquent - in vain fame. A person suffering from vanity (and, after all, any negative habit or attitude is a disease) is inherent in a desire for approval from other people, praise from others (in a difficult form) for idolatry. Vanity is one of the manifestations of pride that is viewed as a mortal sin in most religions.
A person who indulges in himself, depends on the opinions of others, gets lost in a cloud of human reactions to him. Like other traits, vanity brings with it other negative habits. Of course, this trait often drives you to success, but such a push is like a high jump without a safety net. Among the positive traits one can see its analogy - striving for worthy goals, resolving into matters, not people's opinions.
Attitude towards others - aggressiveness
Aggression can only evoke one reaction, so a person who is not distinguished by a peaceful character seldom arouses sympathy of society. But if it were all about sympathy, that trait might still be somehow justified. However, history shows so clearly the harmfulness of aggressiveness that there can be no compromise. Unlike many other negative traits, there are no intermediaries between this and its physical extension.
Attitude to business - laziness
In reality, such a phenomenon does not exist. There is a concept. Laziness is a whole complex of signs that indicate a lack of love for work and goals. Laziness speaks of a loss of energy. Just as darkness is the lack of light and cold is the lack of warmth, so too laziness is only the "immobility" of certain positive qualities or the exhaustion of the corresponding mental resources that help to make life a vivid picture.
Whatever the causes of laziness, indulging in laziness is a waste of time and life. There are many ways to replace this negative trait with similar positive ones.
Attitude to the material - waste
A feature that seldom allows you to retain "acquired revision" even under attractive financial terms. Thus wasting destroys the fruits of labor, sometimes harsh, and often leaves a person with empty pockets or even debt dragged into a social abyss.
Some refuse to consider this trait negative, appealing to the fact that life is one and you have to live it to the maximum. Frugality - the opposite - is perceived by such people as the set of "gray" individuals. Potential or accomplished donors are unaware that reckless spending never leads to creation.
There is another way to classify negative character traits.
Character traits can be divided into emotional, intellectual and strong-willed.
Determine a person's relationship to objects, subjects and processes of reality. Narcissism, for example, is directed inwards, ridicule is directed outwards, at those around you. This class includes ardor, recklessness, vindictiveness ... all affect the emotional sphere and prevent positive moods from taking their place. As a result, a person who is hit by a lot of negative emotions cannot enjoy the life that he could if he changed the sign of the habits from minus to plus.
They can be defined as a complex of well-established traits and qualities of intelligence. This can include stupidity, limitation, inattention ... One of the tasks of a human being as a rational being is to conquer reality. It is impossible if the "tool" is not sharpened.
The inability to use a biological computer, the habit of not sinking below the top layers of reality, breaks down for the bearer of negative intellectual traits and is often detrimental to society. Since many decisions are made collectively in society, the wrong choice due to limitations leads to large and small unpleasant consequences.
Responsible for a person's ability to control their activities and therefore life in many ways. Constructive features lead to creative changes, provided positive ones predominate in other areas. Negatives destroy a person, even if everything is generally fine in the other groups. Examples are cowardice, passivity, hypochondriac ...
The ability to direct energy and skills in the right direction is a prerequisite for a successful life in any definition. On the contrary, will barriers force us to stumble or stumble in one place endlessly.
How to change minus to plus
Thousands of works have been written on how to cultivate character. The most important thing is not the quantity, but the fundamentally possible change. The simplest solution is to analyze the shortcomings, choose a model of the desired behavior and do some careful "bookkeeping".
In other words, you should carefully study your weaknesses (and this is an ongoing process) and choose an example to follow. A visual model is always better than an abstraction. Imitation of the behavior of "samples" (it is better to have several, since there are no ideals) should be accompanied by daily analysis and correction of efforts.
All people can read different books about self development that have enough knowledge to become smarter in relationships. However, we are all handicapped by the bad, sometimes "toxic" qualities of our chosen one. We are often afraid to speak to those who are the source of these "toxic vibrations" and even more afraid that because of them we will have to give up friendships and relationships.
Such "poisonous" properties manifest themselves in various forms, and we can see some of them in those people from whom we do not expect it at all. A nice and good person outside of us becomes an illusion because he is completely different inside. You just have to wait for him to show his real colors.
Let's think about it five human qualities in relationships that represent general personality traits. It should be borne in mind that they can hide behind a person's kind smile and a successful appearance.
Sometimes you just have to think about other people's qualities.
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The discussion on this topic began with the fact that, in collaboration with Dr. Kristen Fuller heard her stories about her own experiences in such a relationship. She writes: “I was able to avoid“ toxic ”relationships, but I saw bad traits in people who, at first glance, seemed to me to be excellent candidates for the role of chosen one. For example, a man had everything: a large family, a prestigious education, a successful career, and he seemed like a very kind person to me. But I quickly realized that this is all an appearance and that it is difficult to avoid emotional torture with people with "toxic" traits because they looked "perfect" on the outside. The difficulty was that its real sides were invisible at first glance.
How do you say, "Appearances can be deceiving"... I have learned the importance of recognizing such people at the beginning of a friendship or relationship with them. I have also learned to remove these "terrible" people from my life and appreciate those who, on the contrary, bring positive emotions into them. Ultimately, I became a strong person and when such people met my path, I knew what to do in this or that situation. "
Whether friendships or romantic relationships, most of us cannot see these bad qualities even when interacting with such people. there are five terrible faces People who poison their relationships; They're all pretty common. These masks can hide in people, and it happens that a person has not one, but even many properties that are harmful to others. Shakespeare's words float to history - "Our whole life is a game and the people in it are actors."
List of bad qualities of people:
It is necessary to understand what is more important to him, to find a reason or simply to criticize.
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Have you ever been in a relationship where you have been criticized and judged no matter what you do? Criticism is different from traditional advice, and it's important to understand the difference. For example, consider a situation in someone's life when they are late for a meeting. Delays negatively affect our professional and personal relationships with people. Eternal delay is a bad trait of a person. Nonetheless, each of us has made such mistakes and learned from our mistakes. Now we come to different versions of the same late situation.
Scenario 1: You're 15 minutes late for lunch and don't warn your significant other beforehand. She / he gets very angry and instead of asking what happened, she / he automatically blames you. What you hear in your address - "You are always late and always late, I waited 15 minutes for you, it seems that you can never show up on time."
This is the perfect example of criticism, and most of the time this person will criticize your every move: "Are you going to wear this?", "Why do you never ...", "What's wrong with you ..." and the list goes on . As a result, you feel guilty all the time because "you can never do anything right" no matter how hard you try.
... criticizes out of habit.
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Scenario 2: You're 15 minutes late for lunch and don't warn your significant other beforehand. Your partner is angry, but instead of criticizing, he is telling you - “I notice that you are late quite often. Maybe you have a reason "... this is an example of when your half is trying to figure out the reason why you are wrong. Instead of blaming a particular person, they look for the reason for the act.
critic can do a lot of damage to your relationship. Critics will never give you offensive names, but they can constantly hurt your beliefs, looks, or thoughts. Often times, this is because they have low self-esteem and want to be in control. Instead of trying to improve some of your bad habits, they actually prevent you from growing as a person.
An example of this criticism can be seen when a parent says to a child, "You are a bad boy / girl" instead of saying, "You did something bad."
We all have passive-aggressive people around us. The passive attacker is one of the most terrible qualities. You will always feel bad with such a person.Passive aggression is a bad human trait
Let's consider the scenario of one of the following situations:
You did something wrong and your half was upset afterwards. However, you are not entirely sure if this is the problem with his condition. And then you ask him why he is angry or sad because you could rule out this mistake in the future if it is your fault. Despite all your attempts to reach the truth, your partner does not tell the real reason and denies everything by saying, " everything is fine with me ", « I'm not upset, everything is fine«.
This can leave you feeling exhausted and wondering why he is in this state and what he is hiding under the real causes of resentment or even anger. You can spend countless hours reading someone's mind, but nothing will come of it and you will just waste your nerves.
If a person cannot communicate in a way you understand, uses sarcasm as a defense mechanism, sends mixed (vague) messages, or does something not to show their true feelings, you know you are dealing with a passive-aggressive person, too do have. Note that passive aggression is a passive expression of anger.
Such a person pretends to be God's gift to this universe. He's the best at everything, knows absolutely everything, and isn't afraid to tell you anything. No matter how smart and experienced you are, you will never be equated with this person - he will not allow you to. Like the passive-aggressive quality, narcissism is viewed as a personality disorder and is a very poor quality.
Narcissism is one of the bad qualities in people
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Narcissistic people usually stand on a pedestal and look at you from above. You can feel like you are constantly competing with this person under any circumstances. Narcissists are often reluctant to compromise, lack understanding and empathy, and want to be the center of attention for a long time. They can even ruin special holidays for you, like your birthday or your promotion at work, to be the center of attention. And they don't care that it's your time to enjoy attention or fame.
The story of daffodils from ancient Greek and Roman mythology helps us better understand the properties of daffodils. If you remember the description of the work, then it describes how Narcissus looked into the water and saw a beautiful flower instead of himself. He was surprised. Narcissistic people are often full of hatred. You are ready to destroy everything around you when you feel pain or rejection from others.
Many people may have heard of the "stone wall". This is the type of person who refuses to join a conversation or share their feelings when they're in trouble. Such people are constantly evading questions and making the interlocutor feel that he is not worthy of honest communication. Such a "stony" person can speak coldly to you and refuse to admit that something has happened to them or that they need someone's help.The many faces
Frequent refusals of sincere communication create negative emotions on the path to future successful communication. In addition, this behavior can lead to resentment or guilt in people. If you are trying to communicate with such a person and you feel that they do not want to be open with you, it is worth thinking about whether you need such a relationship.
Antisocial personality disorder includes characteristics sociopath (viewed as a result of social conditions such as child abuse, characterized by explosive and sometimes aggressive behavior, but presumably possessing the ability to empathize and remorse and psychopathThose who allegedly have no remorse or empathy, take advantage of other people, and are often involved in fraud or crimes for various motives, including greed and revenge. The etiology of psychopathic behavior is believed to be genetic or innate.
We all have tendencies towards different personality traits. We all have a temptation and can partially see ourselves in the behavior of an anti-social personality. We can also forgive and even greet such people by imagining ourselves to be in their place. Even so, psychopaths are psychological chameleons who act on the necessary emotional part to manipulate any situation and other people for money, sex, power, gratification of their own ego, etc. They're usually such professionals that their victims themselves don't know what's going on.
This psychological predatory behavior can only be prevented by a professional. Unsurprisingly, most people don't even suspect such people are around until it's too late. The psychopath's "love" is mostly a lie and is needed for the control, flattery and power hidden under his mask.
If you are in a relationship with someone who possesses any of these personality traits, it makes sense if you take the time to think about how you are feeling about that person. This is exactly what Kristen did to gain a tremendous understanding of the nature of human relationships.
Before proceeding with the classification and enumeration of human character traits, it is necessary to understand the meaning and concept of this term. Translated from the Greek "sign" means difference, sign or omen. Each person's personality is diverse, and in each there is an intertwining of a large number of personal characteristics that determine a person's behavior in a given situation. What are you?
Classification of personality traits
Traditionally, the main character traits are divided into three main groups.
The first characterizes emotions, the second the will and the third the intelligence. There is also a division according to the direction of impact.
This is mainly characterized by an attitude towards the external environment - society and the people around it.
Secondly - the attitude towards oneself and thirdly - towards activity, that is, towards work and learning.
An emotional group, which includes traits such as aggressiveness, apathy, artistry, irascibility, impressionability, good-naturedness, cheerfulness, isolation, impulsiveness, arbitrariness, love, melancholy and others, is formed in early childhood when the child's psyche is under the influence of many an educational phase goes through various factors.
Strong-willed character traits are acquired in the course of life - these are power, masculinity, assertiveness, resourcefulness, obsession, discretion, pedantry, devotion, etc. An intellectual group includes insight, rationality, cleverness, independence, wit, intelligence, intelligence, integrity, etc.
The natural predisposition is crucial here, which is influenced by hereditary genes and temperament.
However, the child's environment cannot be excluded: it would be more correct to say that it plays the same role in the formation of personality as what is determined by nature.
The child grows up, gains experience in dealing with the outside world and a number of positive and negative personality traits. This process continues for life and the list of existing character traits is constantly updated with new personality traits. And if this process is unconscious and reflexive at first, then later, when a person realizes their actions, they can already make a choice. This conscious decision opens up opportunities for character transformation, ie for personal growth.
Main personality traits
Today the list of character traits consists of several hundred different definitions.
Their most varied combinations can be found in the same personality. But in general, the personality traits that exist today are divided into positive and negative.
However, it is impossible to say with absolute certainty that this is a bad and a good trait of character.
For example, adventurism can be described as both a negative and a positive trait, depending on the impact it has on human behavior.
If he is excessively and thoughtlessly carried away by various adventures of an incomprehensible nature, then, most likely, it will not lead him for good.
A successful businessman's healthy thirst for adventure enables him to move forward, invest in promising projects, and thrive. Or for example envy. Everyone will say that this trait is extremely negative.
But psychologists say that this is the engine of progress, and it forces people to push forward and achieve more than others. In most cases, it is worth talking about certain traits that, depending on the current situation, can have a greater impact on a person. However, from a social and moral point of view, they can all be divided into positive and negative.
Negative character traits
Here are some of them:
Negative personality traits include rudeness, boasting, familiarity, gloom, vanity, tenacity, bitchiness, arrogance, self-indulgence, etc.
List of positive personality traits
Here are some of them:
The positive qualities of a person include meekness, sincerity, caring, trust, self-control, courtesy, nobility, accuracy, etc.
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