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ROCD (Relationship OCD): Obsessions and doubts about the partnership

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Many people are plagued by doubts about their partnership or their partner - also because the media all too often give us an unattainable ideal image of a partnership. When the doubts become pathological, one speaks of ROCD (Relationship Obsessive Compulsive Disorder; in German about obsessive thoughts in relation to the partnership): An obsessive-compulsive disorder in which those affected are haunted by recurring, hardly controllable doubts and the desire for 100 percent security .

ROCD symptoms

The doubts include one's own affection and love (do I really love him / her?) But also the partner (is he / she really the right one?). As with all obsessive-compulsive disorder, these thoughts are repetitive and difficult to control. They are perceived by those affected as stressful, uncomfortable and inappropriate. The focus of the disruption is often the desire for 100 percent security.

Typical ROCD obsessions include:
  • Do I really love my partner?
  • Does my partner really suit me? Do we fit together?
  • Is he / she really the right one for me?
  • I don't like everything about my partner. Does that mean we don't belong together?
Necessary conditions to speak of an obsessive compulsive disorder:
  • The thoughts and doubts are always recurring
  • Those affected can hardly control the thoughts and doubts
  • The thoughts and doubts are perceived by those concerned as stressful and inappropriate

Classification according to ICD10

According to the international classification system ICD10, ROCD is encoded with F42.0 (compulsion to brood).

ROCD treatment and therapy

ROCD can be treated well with methods of cognitive behavior therapy: In the first step, the clients learn (psycho-educative) the mechanisms of obsessive thoughts; In the second step, they learn to break through brooding and circles of thought.

Mindfulness training helps clients to better accept the uncertainty surrounding their partner.

Book recommendation

Dr. phil. Hansruedi Amb├╝hl is a specialist psychologist for psychotherapy and cognitive behavioral therapist. For years he helped patients with obsessive thoughts in his practice. Even if he has largely stopped his work due to age - his book is still available in stores: Becoming Free of Obsessive Thoughts

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