How your mistakes made your life better

Making mistakes: better than expected

Mistake, mishap, blunder, misstep, mishap, lapse or even faux pas - the possibilities of naming a mistake are numerous. However, they all have one thing in common: Nobody wants anything to do with them. Mistakes are frowned upon and are seen as a sign of weakness and are viewed as a stigma of personality. Those who make mistakes are not good at what they do. The biggest mistake that most people make is to believe these same claims about mistakes, from which only negative consequences result, especially insecurity and stress. Hence the express appeal: Allow yourself the freedom to make mistakes ...

➠ Content: This is what awaits you

➠ Content: This is what awaits you

Fear shapes the way we deal with mistakes

Mistakes are part of life in every area. No matter if professionally or privately, everyone gets wrong many times over the course of time. How this situation is dealt with is not only a sign of personality, but also an expression of Error culturethat the person is confronted with.

At precisely this point there is still a lot of room for improvement, because the error culture - not just in the private sphere or at the employer, but throughout society - is in dubious condition.

In other words: the often advertised open handling of mistakes, the appreciation of the imperfect, remains a gray theory in most cases.

In practice, every mistake wakes them up Fear of possible consequences and is swept under the carpet as well as possible, which is then stowed in the basement to guarantee that the misstep remains undetected forever.

However, the wrong handling of errors does not help to defuse the situation. But on the contrary. The pressure from mistakes is also increased and the stress of wanting to avoid them at all costs is only further increased.

Reacting to a bug is critical

What do you think the moment you notice a mistake of your own? The natural response consists of Anger, anger and disappointment. Although this is understandable, it does not take you any step further, neither professionally nor privately. The same applies to the reaction of those around you, family, friends, boss and colleagues. When something really went wrong, accusations or accusations usually follow and justifications are demanded.

Such an impulsive reaction is anything but long-term. Because the person concerned almost always knows exactly where his mistake was and what consequences it brings with it. Maybe he can even understand the anger of the environment, but none of that changes that an angry reaction to a mistake only leads to one thing: more mistakes!

In a study, Kristi M. Lewis at the California School of Professional Psychology was able to show that negative emotions from executives have a negative impact on employees. In other words, if a boss got carried away with negative emotions after a mistake - such as anger, frustration or anger about the situation - and showed them to the employee, the risk appetite of the employees decreased as a result, a lower level of creativity was found and The commitment also decreased, which resulted in further mistakes.

Superiors in particular should take this knowledge to heart and learn that Failure of employees to recognize for what they really are: Opportunities to learn something new, develop yourself further and grow with it.

4 good reasons to make more mistakes

But every single one should try to rethink and improve how you deal with mistakes. Look at things from the other side, don't get angry about a mistake you have made, but recognize the opportunities behind it. What sounds so beautiful is admittedly not quite as easy as it might seem, because the fear is particularly deep after the years in which you have tried to turn a blind eye to your mistakes. But it is worth overcoming this and To turn your inner error culture upside down and to redesign it in the long term. These four good reasons suggest that you should make more mistakes in the future without feeling ashamed or fearful of them.

  1. You learn something

    Flawless action is often declared the optimum. What is being ignored is that Possibility of development. It may be important, especially in a professional context, not to make a mistake in certain situations that could worsen a result, but skills can only grow through such mistakes.

    Who always seems to do everything right, never has to question himself, never learn or explain his actions. He simply misses the chance to improve his strengths even further or to work on previously unrecognized weaknesses.

  2. They strengthen your personality

    A stable personality can only develop if it also develops deal with your own mistakes got to. A more positive attitude towards mistakes and the firm belief that you can get up again after a setback only emerges if you have been confronted with them and learned that things will continue.

    Mistakes themselves can therefore ensure that you are less afraid of mistakes in the future. The more you have this experience, the more you internalize that mistakes are not something to be feared about.

  3. You will work more efficiently

    At first glance a paradoxical thesis, but if you allow yourself to make mistakes, your way of working will benefit from it and increase efficiency. Hardly anything slows us down as much as perfectionism, since everything should be worked out down to the smallest detail and ideally checked several times.

    Accept that perfection is almost inaccessible and not essential for good performance, you can concentrate on the essentials, Process tasks faster and still in good quality.

  4. You increase your chances of success

    Do mistakes make you more successful? Yes, indeed, because Now you know what is not working, where there is potential or which ideas should be reconsidered. In other words, with each failure you move closer to your success and eliminate alternatives that didn't work.

    Mistakes contribute to self-reflection and sharpen your own self-image in a way that success cannot match. At the same time, it's a matter of confidence and perseverance to keep trying.

With these questions you can turn your mistakes into opportunities

If the attitude is right, the question remains how to turn a mistake into an opportunity. These five questions can help you:

  • What exactly was the mistake?
  • How did the mistake happen?
  • Can a similar error happen again?
  • What lesson should one learn from this?
  • What specific actions and changes are necessary?

Ask yourself this question about a mistake and manage to find honest answers, not only analyze the situation, but also develop further steps that are necessary to learn from the mistake and to do better in the future.

7 mistakes Kluge never make a second time

Mistakes are way better than their reputation, but there are mistakes that should remain a one-time thing. Those who repeatedly step into the same faux pas not only make life difficult for themselves, but also quickly give the impression that they are absolutely resistant to learning and development. We have seven mistakes put together that you should not commit a second time in order not to ruin your own reputation and harm yourself.

  1. Ignore advice

    If not for Crown Prince Albert at the time on the advice of his wife Elisabeth heard, then he would probably never have stepped over the doorstep of Lionel Logue. If pride and vanity had triumphed, then perhaps he would have remained the insecure stutterer who regularly mocked himself in front of the whole nation. But as it was, Albert let the unconventional speech therapist Logue get rid of his stuttering, became King of the Resistance George VI and posthumously a film hero in The King’s Speech. The moral of the story, of course, is not to take every first piece of advice without hesitation. But that Feedback from intelligent people shouldn't be ignored, especially if you are familiar with the realities of the company or the industry. Smart: Take advice and let it flow into your own considerations - and don't always know everything better.

  2. Go for the glue

    You let this sales genius turn the vacuum cleaner on your front door and the stupid thing gives up its ghost after two months. Consequence: You won't buy a second one. Or does it? Sometimes we downright want each other sell for stupid to let. Whoever screams the loudest, who drums the strongest, has the greatest chances of success. So be careful: do not fall for the charmer a second time who wants to convince you of product A or order B without providing hard facts. He doesn't have to be a charlatan, but a dose of skepticism protects you from unpleasant surprises - and is simply smarter than blind trust.

  3. Do the same and expect a different result

    The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Allegedly said Einstein. That doesn't always have to be right, for example job search: The identical application can be miserable with company A, but really well received with company B. However, it is more likely that you will flash off both of them. Even more: The failurethat are strung together become increasingly frustrating. Smarter: Fine-tune the application, tailor it individually to the respective position - and thus develop your own skills. This of course also applies to all other areas: Don't make the mistake of that not to question one's own achievements and to consider incorrigible.

  4. Play the determiner

    Everyone would like to Exercise powerto act as a determiner, hold the strings in hand and be in charge. The Urge for power is in us. But don't give yourself up to that illusion that one could force power. Pursuing your own principles, wanting to convince others of yourself - yes. Artificially playing the big bugger in the office - no. If you have a Strive for leadership position, would be smarter: Don't knock on it like crazy with a jackhammer, but rather hollow the stone with steady drops. With good arguments, continuous persuasion and experience, for example.

  5. Expect immediate reward

    Memo to all the adventurers out there: Success doesn't come overnight, Certainly not wealth. Every euro, every praise has to be wrested from the day in painstaking detailed work. And even with hard drudgery, not everyone achieves reputation and prosperity. Still, only idiots expect one instant reward for good performance. After a good month, expect the boss to kiss her on the forehead and the coal just gushing out. Believe you had by doing this Right to immediate transport. For people with no foresight who want to get rich on the spot, there are actually only two options: win the lottery or take the route to crime. Our advice: Better leave it ...

  6. Blame others

    There are definitely moments when you cannot help your predicament because someone else spat on you. But: in most cases this is not the case. Finger pointing seldom bring you further, personal responsibility can. In addition, it gives you the nice feeling of having everything in your own hands, of being in control. Conversely, this also means: You are also primarily responsible for your success, not the rest of the world. Hence the classic: The Guilty of failure do not blame the team leader, the weather or other circumstances. But primarily yourself.

  7. Everybody’s want to be darling

    Wanting to please everyone - that is a Signs of weaknessregistered by the others. Because that's also true: there is someone lurking around every corner who wants to and would take advantage of you if the opportunity presents itself. Therefore smarter: Remain fair and friendly - but don't fall into the popularity trap. In order to get around this, it is necessary to refuse tasks, sometimes NOT to accept favors and to skip the favor if need be. In short: just say no. The others will still like you ...

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3rd November 2020Author: Jochen Mai

Jochen Mai is the founder and editor-in-chief of the career bible. The author of several books lectures at the TH Köln and is a sought-after keynote speaker, coach and consultant.

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