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Blind spot: this is how you recognize your weaknesses

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Blind spot: Distorted perception of weaknesses

When it comes to weaknesses, one is phenomenon to observe again and again: We recognize the weaknesses of the others right away and very clearly - on the other hand we are almost blind to our own deficits. We can easily see from colleagues when they have difficulties at work, and after work we can discuss the inadequacies of others with friends at length and width - when asked about our own weaknesses, however, the answer is silence.

It is as it is already in the Bible: We can easily see the splinter of wood in the eye of the other person, but easily overlook the beam in our own eye. He is ours blind spot.

Some time ago, psychologists in large-scale studies with a total of more than 200,000 participants came to the conclusion that the majority had great difficulties in self-assessment. A clear pattern emerged: While the test subjects regularly overestimated their own strengths, weaknesses were all the more underestimated or completely overlooked and ignored.

Man is not only the crown of creation, but unfortunately also the tip in it, his own own reality to create: a universe of self-deception, whitewashing, selective perception and self-righteousness.

It is not uncommon for the supposed self-protection to hide an inflated ego, pure narcissism or a veritable one Profile neurosis. And of course a wrong definition of weaknesses.

After all, they don't get better by suppressing them, denying them, keeping quiet about them, hiding them. On the contrary: only those who recognize them and this admits, can work on it or target the blind spots through other people and their strengths compensate.

How many projects and ideas ultimately fail because of Pride and vanity (to the point of arrogance) some who prefer to muddle on hopelessly instead of asking their colleagues for advice or help.

Recognizing the blind spot: this is how you recognize your weaknesses

A blind spot may go unnoticed, but it still has many effects. You overestimate yourself, make mistakes, deliver results that are nowhere near as good as you might think. A blind spot can also be a hindrance in the interview. Anyone who claims to have no weaknesses or clichéd answers like I'm too perfectionist ... there, can't score.

It is better to deal honestly and authentically with your own deficits. HR managers see it that way too, because only those who know their weak points can work on them and exploit the potential that is still available. In order for this to work, you have to direct your gaze specifically to where you would otherwise prefer to look away.

The good news: it is enough to explore your own blind spots and weaknesses five questions out.

That doesn't sound like much, but it shouldn't be underestimated. The questions are tough - especially if you answer them honestly and comprehensively. Because you will not like all the answers and insights.

In the course of the process you will discover weaknesses that you were previously unaware of, that you do not like at all, and that you would rather ignore. But you shouldn't: You don't have to suffer from every deficiency and not making up for every deficit - Many a blind spot accompanies us for a lifetime.

Others, however, hinder and burden us and our development for a lifetime. To ignore them would be foolish.

So ask yourself the following questions - and with them yourself. And you not only recognize - as usual - the pleasant strengths, but above all those blind spotsworth working on:

  • What tasks do you dislike?

    This question relates primarily to your work life. What tasks and work do you perform out of pure necessity, without enthusiasm or motivation? What do you find difficult? Which processes are a burden? What do you have to do for a long time?

    Framework conditions can certainly be responsible for this, but an honest answer to this question will give you initial indications of your own weaknesses.

  • Which activities do you avoid often?

    The answers related to the workplace can serve as a starting point. However, this is about activities in all areas of life: Which tasks and activities do you avoid particularly often and with pleasure? What does great overcoming cost you? Why are you avoiding this? What are the consequences of this avoidance strategy? Would it get you further if you could overcome yourself?

    With the last question, you should also consider the consequences of your actions. This can mean, for example, that you regularly fall behind because the task ultimately cannot be avoided - or that you keep an open flank that you have to cover up with a lot of energy on a regular basis.

  • What are you failing to do at all?

    Please reflect on the fact that you regularly have problems, have to exert yourself excessively - and in the end only achieve suboptimal results. What were your biggest failures? Please do not only think of skills, such as screwing together an Ikea shelf, but also of character traits such as impatience, irritability or righteousness.

    In the second step, please ask yourself how to deal with it: Do something against it? Are you working on yourself? If not, why not? Here, too, it can help if you - honestly - bear in mind the consequences. But not only the nicely colored ...

  • What do you let yourself be provoked or seduced by?

    As far as our self-control goes, so does our freedom. But everyone has a few blind spots here too: buttons that others only have to press - and then it is over with being able to control one's emotions, one's behavior and one's wishes and be able to withstand these impulses.

    Ask yourself which buttons these are: What are you easily provoked or seduced by? What are (were) the consequences? What do you do to protect yourself from this? Sometimes it is enough to avoid temptation. But sometimes we have to develop strategies and train them to maintain self-control.

  • What can you not handle?

    Are there people you find difficult to get along with? Are there any situations that suddenly spoil your mood? Of course, you don't have to get along well with everyone, some toxic types should even be avoided.

    However, some antipathies and annoyances can also provide good indications of your own weaknesses. For example, because these people make us more aware of our own deficits through their strengths and therefore particularly irritate us. However, that is not their problem, but ours. The same applies to some circumstances and situations.

Tips: How To Deal With Your Blind Spots

But also make yourself aware: Weaknesses are relative. What you perceive as weakness may be normal or completely sufficient or even a strength for other people. Different demands and expectations and individual situations lead to sometimes contradicting assessments of skills.

Therefore, please check and verify your own findings via family, friends, acquaintances or colleagues whom you can confide in. Ask for feedback and do the same Self-awareness with the External perception from. As is so often the case, the truth lies in the middle.

For what remains as a blind spot, you have in turn two alternatives:

  • Accept

    Accept the weaknesses for what they are: human deficits that we all have. Nothing that should permanently rob us of our joie de vivre. Accept this as an individual specialty, whimsy or trademark.

    This also includes the admission that you cannot be perfect. Without excessive self-criticism or negative effects on self-esteem. Having weaknesses is normal - and no reason to make yourself feel bad about it.

  • To change

    Or you realize that these weaknesses are permanently in your way and paralyze you. Then you shouldn't give up ("IAM like this!"), rather work on it - independent, consistent and permanent. Everyone can change if they want.

    With practice, the previous blind spot that was recognized as weakness gradually becomes a strength to be proud of. When that's done, you can start the process over and uncover more blind spots.

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